When ministering to your kids and wife, it is much more effective to say “ME TOO”, rather than “YOU SHOULD…”. They don’t need our preaching, then need to know we feel and know their hurt. Rather than jump to giving advice, let them know that you care about their circumstances. This allows your kids to know that you also have feelings, have hurts, struggle with fear and pain… This also goes for friends, family, or someone on the streets. Don’t be quick to tell them what they should do to fix their problem. Just offer them a simple “me too, man. Me too. I feel your pain. I have the same thoughts. I made the same mistake last week.” This type of support and love with go a long ways.