FAKING IT WONT FIX IT. I think one of man’s greatest tendencies is to give off the perception that they all good. We are told from a very early age to be strong. To act like a man. Tough it out. Rub some dirt on it and get back in the game. If you show any signs of weakness or vulnerability, you are automatically assumed unfit for the starting quarterback position. The COO position. The elder position. Problem is: every single dude I’ve ever met is weak and vulnerable at times. For many, those times are more frequent than times of strength and confidence. But God forbid we show that weakness, because what will people think? Sure, many will look down on us for showing that weakness. But that is just a true sign of their own weakness. Often times when I write these posts, my wife will get texts asking if everything is ok; often times alluding to our weakness as being not-normal. We are thankful for the well-wishes, but my thought often times is “how are YOU doing? When was the last time your husband showed vulnerability and shared his deepest, darkest secrets?” There are countless dad’s and husbands out there that are jacked up mentally and spiritually, yet their wives have no idea. But faking it sure isn’t gonna fix it, my friend. The longer you hide what’s really in your heart, the louder the bomb will eventually be. It takes tremendous courage to let our brides know we don’t have it all together. Especially since they often rely on us for our strength and together-ness. If it’s too much to share the secret and pain with your wife, start with a bro. Or a pastor. Or mentor. Please talk to someone. Do NOT wait for someone to ask you. Because they may never ask you. Don’t climb the mountain alone. The risk is so much greater. Swallow your pride and reach out. Only then, in that moment of vulnerability, lies your greatest strength. Don’t just go through the motions. Get your hands dirty. What really matters what others think? The only opinion that determines our well-being is our Creator’s!